Happy Mother's Day!
I am not staying very active here as of late, my apologies.
After awhile, I feel I am repeating myself, and who needs that?!
However, I suppose certain things need repeating, in slightly different ways, to continue to stimulate the thought process and activate the self in the moment.
So, which path am I on again?
Oh, right: MINE.
Wouldn't it be great to KNOW that path a little more fully?
Wouldn't it be great to be excited to be on that path all the time?
Let's be honest: some days you wonder why you are HERE and someone else is over THERE. Why are THEY booking and I am not? Why am I frustrated? Why can't I do what they are doing?
We all do it; we've all done it.
First, acknowledge the frustration, the confusion, the annoyances. Acknowledge the un-fair-ness of it all (and as my dad said many times: who said it was going to be fair?)
Get that negative annoyance out of your sphere. Acknowledge it, stomp your feet, whine, do what you need to scream at it, and then let it go. Release it, wipe your nose, take a deep breath and STOP.
Because that path isn't yours. When you start looking over at someone else's path - you aren't focused on your own. When you aren't focused on your own, you are going to miss an amazing and very important discovery that might not come back to you.
Focusing on your path doesn't mean you become a narcissistic asshole. Acknowledge and respect another's path. Rejoice in it, in fact. Be aware of those around you. And then RELEASE THEM.
Your path is your path and ONLY your path. Just as theirs is theirs.
Re-focus on where you are. Not on where you think you should be; or where you would like to be; Be exactly where you are.
I don't believe you shouldn't look back to see how far you've come. I believe you SHOULD be aware and give yourself that credit in order to fully claim the NOW.
How did you get here? What is here, exactly? How have you fashioned and shaped the NOW?
What do you know? What have you learned? What will you NOT do moving forward, (so it doesn't pull you backward), and even more importantly, what WILL you do in order to move forward?
I am list person. It helps me organize the many tabs open in my mind at all times!
If it helps to write it down or type it out so you can SEE and READ what brings you to this point, then do it. It can help to simplify and clarity very quickly. It is often too easy, when frustrated, to paint in a broad & often self-deprecating, brush. Now is the time to discover the detail of your path and what will pivot you forward.
But acknowledging fully what you have done to get this point from a linear point in time - say, last year at this time - will allow you to be still, focus on YOU, and re-claim precisely where you are.
By re-claiming, you acknowledge your path. Which path? YOURS.
That path that is walked by no one but you. That path that has never been walked before. You get to discover every nuance, every twist, every rock and pebble, and every magnificent discovery!
The Jung quote: "Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakens." speaks to me. It is always a dance between the two, not one or the other. The path allows us to dream as we look onward. Stopping to become aware of where we are, where we have come from, awakens us to the possibility, and to the achievement of NOW.
So, let those around you walk their own path. Acknowledge they have that responsibility.
Your responsibility is to YOUR path. It does not need explaining, it simply needs to be acknowledged and claimed.
Dream as you look ahead and awaken as you walk. See every shift. Stop to embrace each one - even if it feels like a road block. That block is on YOUR path. See it, and clear it. Go through it, around it, under it, and keep claiming each direction!
Your only competition is your previous self. The one you released a year ago to be where you are today. If you have grown, you have achieved. Nobody can mimic that or make it theirs. That is yours and yours alone.
There are no buts, there just IS.
Dream, awaken, acknowledge, breathe, be still, move, re-focus, create, and acknowledge that crazy path is YOURS.
You are enough to walk that path. You are creating it!
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